Empathically tapping into the unmet needs beneath our judgements can provide a path to deeper connection with ourselves and with one another....
...AND racist policies can be dismantled by imperfect humans filled with inner judgements and unmet needs who are not deeply connected with themselves or others! Both statements are true -- which reminds me of our unconscious tendency to view reality with an either/or lens. Either/or is baked into our culture, down to the smallest details of life. At age three, our son was asked in pre-school: What’s your favorite color? He felt compelled in that moment to choose one. And so it goes throughout life in this patriarchal racist capitalist christian empire. The preference-ing, the creation of hierarchy, seeps down into the smallest daily decisions and bubbles up into the biggest policy decisions; yet upon investigation such preferences are revealed to be empty, insubstantial, mere breath.
...AND racist policies can be dismantled by imperfect humans filled with inner judgements and unmet needs who are not deeply connected with themselves or others! Both statements are true -- which reminds me of our unconscious tendency to view reality with an either/or lens. Either/or is baked into our culture, down to the smallest details of life. At age three, our son was asked in pre-school: What’s your favorite color? He felt compelled in that moment to choose one. And so it goes throughout life in this patriarchal racist capitalist christian empire. The preference-ing, the creation of hierarchy, seeps down into the smallest daily decisions and bubbles up into the biggest policy decisions; yet upon investigation such preferences are revealed to be empty, insubstantial, mere breath.